What was I thinking? Why did I do this? I have ruined my life. When will things get better? I hate my baby. I wish I never got pregnant. I can’t do this. This is terrible. No one understands how I feel. How does anyone manage a baby? I am so tired and he just won’t sleep. The crying!!!
Everyone says, “it will get better”. For me, this is probably the most upsetting piece of “advice” that I got. When will it get better? How long will this last? Will I always hate my life?
Does this sound like how you are feeling? Talking to someone about how you feel can help normalize feelings of post-partum depression. In therapy, we can work on coping with your thoughts and feelings, come up with a plan for the immediate future, improve your self-care, and work to recognize and cope with negative triggers. We can identify and create a healthy support system in your life to facilitate this major transition into motherhood.
During transitions and stressful times like this, it is very common to have difficulty taking care of yourself and/or your baby. Do you struggle to eat healthy, only craving “bad foods” like cookies or ice cream? Are you drinking enough water or too much alcohol? Are you taking time for yourself and finding a few minutes per day to exercise, or is every last minute spent trying to get everything done on a never-ending to-do list? Improving self-care can help relieve some of the negative symptoms of post-partum depression. During these times, we are focused on everything else – and NOT on taking care of ourselves!
Should I get on meds?
Some people have found that medication is a helpful tool to get through this difficult time. Know that medication is not always necessary but can be a useful if taken responsibly. It is also true that sometimes medication does not help and can even make symptoms worse. Studies have clearly shown that results from medication are best when used along with therapy. A lot of people find that the support received from therapy is enough to get through this time.
Reach out today
If this sounds like you, you could benefit from seeking therapy. Contact me and set up a free 20-minute consultation to discuss if we are the right fit for each other.
I also specialize in working with:
- Infertility or grief due to miscarriages
- Life transitions
- Coping with family stress
- Parenting small children
- Parenting Teens and older children who are struggling to get out on their own (“failure to launch”)
- Relationship concerns
- Support for Moms in all stages